What is most important is who they are, rather than how much they love you

I’ve been reading a few more relationship articles, and I have been remembering, again, that someone’s suitability for a relationship is decided most by who they fundamentally are, rather than what/how they feel about you. Also their awareness of the likely challenges of life, and their willingness to work on these issues.  In fact, I’m thinking that a big indicator of their partnership potential is the kindness with which they treat you or anyone else, when there is no apparent potential for anything romantic.

An aside:  I have also been watching lots of videos about finances and financial issues. In the comments for those videos, no-one blinks an eyelid when the YouTubers suggest that you should work on your financial literacy, or you should invest yourself to acquire skills that would increase your money-making potential. Or think about how much effort people invest into their education, or their job. And yet when I suggest that someone should work on their character, learn to strive after Christ, give their all…suddenly that is the most unrealistic idea on earth. In fact, I can’t help noting that absolutely no pastors I have ever come across have ever taught on the importance of striving after Christ-like character…which actually is what the New Testament is all about.